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As parents, it can be frustrating when we feel like our kids aren’t listening to us.
We may try to communicate with them in a variety of ways, but sometimes it just doesn’t seem to work.
However, it’s important to remember that communication is a two-way street, and there are things we can do to make sure we’re speaking in a way that our kids will understand and respond to.
Here are some tips on how to talk when your kids won’t listen.
Get Their Attention
Before you start speaking, make sure you have your kid’s attention.
This can be as simple as calling their name or making eye contact with them.
Avoid trying to communicate with your kid when they’re distracted or busy doing something else, as they’re less likely to hear and respond to you.
Use A Friendly Tone
It’s important to use a friendly tone when speaking to your kid, even if you’re frustrated or angry.
Yelling or speaking harshly can make your kid feel defensive or shut down, making it harder to have a productive conversation.
Instead, try to speak in a calm and positive tone that conveys your message clearly.
Keep It Simple
Young kids may have a hard time processing complex ideas or long sentences.
Try to keep your message simple and to the point.
Use short sentences and avoid using jargon or technical terms that may confuse your kid.
Use ‘I’ Statements
Instead of accusing or blaming your kid, use “I” statements to express how you feel.
For example, instead of saying “You never listen to me,” try saying “I feel frustrated when I don’t feel heard.”
This can help your kid understand how their behaviour affects you and may help them be more receptive to your message.
Listen Actively
Communication is a two-way street, and it’s important to listen actively to your kid’s response.
Encourage them to express their thoughts and feelings, and be open to their perspective.
Repeat back what they say to make sure you understand their point of view.
Be Patient
Effective communication takes time and practice.
Be patient with your kid, and don’t expect immediate results.
Keep trying different approaches and keep an open mind.
Over time, you’ll find the communication style that works best for you and your child.
Talking to kids when they won’t listen can be challenging, but it’s important to remember that communication is a two-way street.
By getting your kid’s attention, using a friendly tone, keeping your message simple, using “I” statements, listening actively, and being patient, you can improve your communication and strengthen your relationship with your kid.
Your Turn
How are you making sure you have two-way communication with your kids?
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